Framework for determining whether initiatives are restorativeKey questions include:
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‘Restorative justice is a soft option that ignores the need for punishment’26
Forgiving and being reconciled are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the pain, the degradation, the truth…. Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has been done. It means taking what has happened seriously and not minimising it, drawing out the sting in the memory that threatens to poison our entire existence. It involves trying to understand perpetrators and so have empathy, to try to stand in their shoes, and to appreciate the sort of pressures and influences that might have brought them to do what they did.27